So this isn't a typical post which compares the two sexes and/or pits them up against each other, or their behaviour or so.
I am a man, and a man's head is all I perceive, then again, there may be no such thing.. maybe it's people of different types. But there are certainly, some gender roles, women have broken out of many, but not men, and I don't think the male ego itself allows them to.
So the idea that I'm walking towards is, vulnerability. I think, on their own, alone, single, men do/did not feel many things. There is a shield. You know, like rocks in a vessel of water, you throw it in, it makes a few waves, that bounce back from the vessel, and calm out soon enough. Men, who could be warriors, fighters, because, they had been able to, with the help of anger or sadness be insensitive, or numb to others, to their own pain, to not have compassion, to be, animalistic and fiery and merciless. To numb out their own pain into anger.
And yet, inevitably, the woman in their life, made them happy, alive, sensitive, caring, and then of course, scared of losing all that, sensitive suddenly to the pain of others, and feeling the need to express their own to their women, and listen to them.
It's like the vessel of water suddenly had a tiny hole in it. So that, when the rocks made the water splash around, there were droplets of water that escaped the hole into the outside. Like the armour, had an Achilles heel.
And all they could wonder, and all Voldemort could wonder, was, did love make them weak? And a million out there would put forward a thought like, the real strength is in feeling, and being able to tackle, not in being numb, and tackling. But who knows. I mean, the sensitivity is needed, it's what makes them human.
And, I think that any man who truly falls for someone, lives with this vulnerability, and maybe that is why the male ego, insecure from it's vulnerability, seeks validation, but that's not the way to do it. They must just trust, with no guarantees. That, is the real test of strength.
Then again, maybe this is over-thought.
I am a man, and a man's head is all I perceive, then again, there may be no such thing.. maybe it's people of different types. But there are certainly, some gender roles, women have broken out of many, but not men, and I don't think the male ego itself allows them to.
So the idea that I'm walking towards is, vulnerability. I think, on their own, alone, single, men do/did not feel many things. There is a shield. You know, like rocks in a vessel of water, you throw it in, it makes a few waves, that bounce back from the vessel, and calm out soon enough. Men, who could be warriors, fighters, because, they had been able to, with the help of anger or sadness be insensitive, or numb to others, to their own pain, to not have compassion, to be, animalistic and fiery and merciless. To numb out their own pain into anger.
And yet, inevitably, the woman in their life, made them happy, alive, sensitive, caring, and then of course, scared of losing all that, sensitive suddenly to the pain of others, and feeling the need to express their own to their women, and listen to them.
It's like the vessel of water suddenly had a tiny hole in it. So that, when the rocks made the water splash around, there were droplets of water that escaped the hole into the outside. Like the armour, had an Achilles heel.
And all they could wonder, and all Voldemort could wonder, was, did love make them weak? And a million out there would put forward a thought like, the real strength is in feeling, and being able to tackle, not in being numb, and tackling. But who knows. I mean, the sensitivity is needed, it's what makes them human.
And, I think that any man who truly falls for someone, lives with this vulnerability, and maybe that is why the male ego, insecure from it's vulnerability, seeks validation, but that's not the way to do it. They must just trust, with no guarantees. That, is the real test of strength.
Then again, maybe this is over-thought.
Comments
Although, ego is important. It is very often what makes someone strong in the worst of times. Ego isn't negative really.
Also, I will be calling you as soon as I'm done with an assignment.